Wisdom
ფუნქციის დაკარგვა არის ყველაზე საშინელი რამ, რაც შეიძლება ადამიანს დაემართოს
ყველაზე ნაკლებს ვთხოვთ ხოლმე ჩვენ გონებას. როცა რაღაც კრიზისია, ადექი და ამოხსენი. ეს შეიძლება აზარტულიც იყოს - "აი ეს მე როგორ ვერ უნდა გავაკეთო..." სხეულის სხვა ნაწილებს უფრო ვთხოვთ ხოლმე, ვიდრე გონებას
ჩვენ რომ ყოველი დღე რაღაცას ვსწავლობდეთ და უფრო ჭკვიანი ვხდებოდეთ, წარმოიდგინეთ, რამხელა შედეგს მივიღებდით ერთი წლის თავზე
ყოველდღე ადამიანი იწონება და უხარია 100 გრამი თუ დაიკლო ან მოიმატა. ამას ამხელა ყურადღებას აქცევს ადამიანი და არ ინტერესდება ცოდნა რა მოემატა
ადამიანი, რომელთანაც ხარ, იმიტომ არ უნდა შეამოწმო და უთვალთვალო, რომ სწორედ ამ ნდობით უმტკიცებ, რომ გიყვარს და პატივს სცემ
ეჭვიანობა ურთიერთობაში არის უნდობლობა. თუ მიყვარხარ და არ გენდობი, გამოდის, რომ პატივს არ გცემ და თუ პატივს არ გცემ, სიყვარულიც საეჭვოა
კრიტიკული აზროვნება არის განვითარების საშუალება
კრიზისული სიტუაცია არის განვითარების კარგი საშუალება
რაც მეტს ვაბრალებთ სხვებს, მით უფრო განუვითარებლები ვრჩებით
ადამიანი ცუდად არის მაშინ, როცა პასუხი არ აქვს კითხვაზე
If you face the malevolence and suffering that opens the door to your maximal potential. The optimistic part of that is although the suffering is great and the malevolence is deep, your capacity to transcend it is stronger
The cross is sort of a symbol of the place of maximal suffering. So you accept that as a challenge not as something that you are victimized by
The two major problems that people face obviously are suffering - tragedy and malevolence. You are supposed to look at the capacity for human evil as clearly as possible
The world is full of suffering and you should accept that as your responsibility past present and future. You are supposed to do something about that as much as you can
Despite how tragic life is and how malevolent things are, our spirit has the capacity to confront it courageously and fix it, not only to deal with it psychologically but to deal with it practically. And that we could make things much better
One of the things you'd like to know if you wanted to know something deep about yourself is that you could face the worst that there was and prevail
Positive ancestral father
Imagine that you are like the potential composite of all the ancestral wisdom that's locked inside of you biologically. But that's not gonna come out at all unless you stress yourself, unless you challenge yourself. The bigger the challenge you take on the more that's gonna turn on. As you take on a broader and broader range of challenges and you push yourself harder then more and more of what you could be turns on and that's equivalent to transforming yourself into the ancestral father
We are built for adventure and not for peace and happiness
in order to truly appreciate love you have to understand and really have felt hate and to really appreciate camaraderie you have to feel loneliness. This is just a part of being a person
In order to really truly learn about yourself and about life you have to overcome adversity, you have to experience things
If you put yourself in a new situation, then genes code for new proteins and build new neural structures and new nervous system structures. Same thing happens to some degree when you work out - your muscles are responding to the load. Your nervous system does that too. Imagine that there is a lot of potential you locked in your genetic code and then if you put yourself in a new situation then the situational stress unlocks those genes and then builds new parts of you. And so that's very cool because who knows how much there is locked inside of you
What a behavior therapist should do when someone is afraid
What you try to do if you are a behavior therapist is you break down the thing they're avoiding into smaller and smaller peaces until you find a peace that's small enough so they'll do it. It doesn't really matter as long as they start it. Then they can put the next peace on the next peace and what happens is they don't get less afraid exactly, they get braver
As you move towards the goal there are certain things that you have to accomplish that frighten you. Maybe you have to learn to be a better speaker, a better writer, a better thinker, you have to be better to people around you or you have to learn some new skills and you are afraid of that... whatever. Because it's going to stretch you if you pursue a goal and so that will put you up against challenges
The better the goal the more full and rich your experience is going to be when you pursue it. That's one of the reasons for developing a vision and for fleshing yourself out philosophically because you want to aim at the highest goal that you can manage