კრიზისული სიტუაცია არის განვითარების კარგი საშუალება

რაც მეტს ვაბრალებთ სხვებს, მით უფრო განუვითარებლები ვრჩებით

ადამიანი ცუდად არის მაშინ, როცა პასუხი არ აქვს კითხვაზე

If you face the malevolence and suffering that opens the door to your maximal potential. The optimistic part of that is although the suffering is great and the malevolence is deep, your capacity to transcend it is stronger

The cross is sort of a symbol of the place of maximal suffering. So you accept that as a challenge not as something that you are victimized by

The two major problems that people face obviously are suffering - tragedy and malevolence. You are supposed to look at the capacity for human evil as clearly as possible

The world is full of suffering and you should accept that as your responsibility past present and future. You are supposed to do something about that as much as you can

Despite how tragic life is and how malevolent things are, our spirit has the capacity to confront it courageously and fix it, not only to deal with it psychologically but to deal with it practically. And that we could make things much better

One of the things you'd like to know if you wanted to know something deep about yourself is that you could face the worst that there was and prevail

Positive ancestral father

Imagine that you are like the potential composite of all the ancestral wisdom that's locked inside of you biologically. But that's not gonna come out at all unless you stress yourself, unless you challenge yourself. The bigger the challenge you take on the more that's gonna turn on. As you take on a broader and broader range of challenges and you push yourself harder then more and more of what you could be turns on and that's equivalent to transforming yourself into the ancestral father

We are built for adventure and not for peace and happiness

in order to truly appreciate love you have to understand and really have felt hate and to really appreciate camaraderie you have to feel loneliness. This is just a part of being a person

In order to really truly learn about yourself and about life you have to overcome adversity, you have to experience things

If you put yourself in a new situation, then genes code for new proteins and build new neural structures and new nervous system structures. Same thing happens to some degree when you work out - your muscles are responding to the load. Your nervous system does that too.
Imagine that there is a lot of potential you locked in your genetic code and then if you put yourself in a new situation then the situational stress unlocks those genes and then builds new parts of you. And so that's very cool because who knows how much there is locked inside of you

What a behavior therapist should do when someone is afraid

What you try to do if you are a behavior therapist is you break down the thing they're avoiding into smaller and smaller peaces until you find a peace that's small enough so they'll do it. It doesn't really matter as long as they start it. Then they can put the next peace on the next peace and what happens is they don't get less afraid exactly, they get braver

As you move towards the goal there are certain things that you have to accomplish that frighten you. Maybe you have to learn to be a better speaker, a better writer, a better thinker, you have to be better to people around you or you have to learn some new skills and you are afraid of that... whatever. Because it's going to stretch you if you pursue a goal and so that will put you up against challenges

The better the goal the more full and rich your experience is going to be when you pursue it. That's one of the reasons for developing a vision and for fleshing yourself out philosophically because you want to aim at the highest goal that you can manage

Anonymous accounts in social networks are problematic because it certainly enables people to allow their worst to manifest themselves, especially if they are resentful and angry

If you don't get your act together then you leave a little space for hell

You should be responsible because you need to have a deep meaning in your life to offset the suffering so you don't get bitter. And the way you do that is to bear a heavy load. To get yourself in check for you now and for you in the future and then to do the same for your family and your community. There's real nobility and meaning

Value distinctions between things

There's value distinctions between things. Some things are worth doing and some things are not and you can kind of discover what that is for yourself and then you should aim at the things that are most worth doing and what you'll find if you watch carefully is that the things that you find worth doing are almost always associated with an increase in responsibility

The antidote to the suffering and the malevolence is to take on more responsibility for themselves and for other people. That's aspirational

You have to work to take care of yourself and what you want in this moment but then there's you tomorrow, and there's you next week and there's you next month the next year, ten years from now and when you are old... So because you are self-conscious and because you are aware of the future you are actually a community unto yourself. And if you are selfish and impulse all that means is that you are serving the person you are right now in that impulsive way but not the person you are going to be. That's not a good ground for any sort of ethical behavior

Power in a hierarchy is the right way to be. Human hierarchies are very complex and that the way that you win human hierarchy is by being competent and reciprocal