Wisdom
If you get rid of the hierarchy you get rid of the value structure, you get rid of the tools that allow us to generate absolute wealth and stop people from starving it's catastrophe. You have to have the hierarchy
As the societies get more egalitarian the differences between men and women get bigger. You make the societies more egalitarian men and women get more different
Differences between men and women get more extreme at the ends of the distribution
A world of equality of outcome could not be achieved if there are actual differences between people
There's a tiny percentage of men who are hyper-competitive along those single axis of competition and maybe they drive most things. They probably do. But that doesn't make them right. It also doesn't make them most people
Once you make enough money to keep the bill collectors at bay, additional money doesn't improve your quality of life. Other things do
How much socioeconomic success are you willing to sacrifice to spend time with your kids before they're three years old? That should not be none!
How much you make is not the only hallmark of success in your life
Cheating is common but it's not the norm. It's still the norm not to do that. The norm is fidelity
Society's tilt towards monogamy across the world is human universal
Women are high Pergamus which means they meet across a knop dominance hierarchies and so if you're a male who's successful in a given hierarchy the probability that you're gonna have additional mating opportunities is exceptionally high. It's an unbelievably good predictor of that
The man who are winning should be allowed to win and the woman should be allowed to choose. Yes except that there's the problem of children
The problem with hierarchies is that they can get too steep and destabilize everything. That does happen. That particularly happens in the sexual domain
I'm not in favor of unbridled hierarches. The proclivity of a hierarchy is that all the spoils go to the person at the top and that can destabilize the whole structure. We have to have a dialogue about how to rectify that
polygamous society
If a polygamous society develops which is the alternative of monogamy, then a small minority of men get all the women and also making the women unhappy because the women don't have any access to a genuine intimate one-to-one relationship over any long period of time
To the degree that we deviate monogamy we tilt towards a more violent society
Solution to the relationship between men and women fundamentally is monogamous social norms
Women outnumber men so the men hypothetically have more sexual opportunity but that's not what happens. What happens is that a small minority of men have all the sexual opportunity, a fairly large minority of men don't. The women are not happy because they can't find a committed relationship. It's bad for most of the men and the men who have all the sexual opportunity gets cynical
You are a young man and all the women are rejecting you. Who's got the problem? - It's not all the women, that's a bad road to go down. If all the women are rejecting you, it's you!
Your house needs a lot of work man. There's a lot of rot in the floorboards. The plumbing is leaking. The water's coming in. You're not the sage and Saint you think you are. There's so much work you have to do on yourself that it would damn near kill you to take a look at it, to do everything you possibly can
If enough people take responsibility for getting their individual life's together then we'll get wise enough so we won't let this process of political polarization put us back to the same places that we went so many times in the 20th century. I don't see another antidote for it. It's not political, it's ethical
The fundamental measurement of unit is the individual and the fundamental task of the individual is to engage in the process of humble self-improvement
When are you sick of yourself?
When are you sick of yourself? - Well, that's when you're being useless and irresponsible for yourself and for your family and for your community. You're not even taking care of yourself. You can't sleep with a clean conscience unless you are psychopathic if you're not taking care of yourself. Adopt a little responsibility for yourself and you can sleep with the clean conscience. What happens if you'd opted full responsibility for yourself and then for your family?
Where is the meaning?
Where is the meaning? - The meaning is in responsibility. It's a burden but voluntarily hoisted. It's the place of maximal meaning and the more responsibility you take the more meaning you have and that's the antidote to the catastrophe of life