Wisdom
You should be responsible because you need to have a deep meaning in your life to offset the suffering so you don't get bitter. And the way you do that is to bear a heavy load. To get yourself in check for you now and for you in the future and then to do the same for your family and your community. There's real nobility and meaning
There is so many things you can do about gathering resources and wisely investing them so that you and your family are secure. Here's one thing to strive to become early in your life and career - financially independent - so that nobody or nothing has a claim on your assets. Accomplish that as quickly as possible
No matter what you are acting out some people are way better at it than others. Doesn't matter if it's basketball or hockey or plumbing or law it doesn't matter. As soon as there is something valuable and you are doing it collectively there is a hierarchy
There is no technical difference between thinking about yourself and being measurable